The Netherlands Advises Single People to Find Corona Sex Buddies

The BBC reports that:

“The Dutch government has issued new guidance to single people seeking intimacy during the pandemic, advising them to find a “sex buddy”.

The National Institute for Public Health and the Environment (RIVM) says singletons should come to an arrangement with one other person.

But pairings should avoid sex if one of them suspects they have coronavirus, the advice says.

The guidance comes after critics said there was no sex advice for singles”. (See

This advice strikes me as humane and eminently sensible. It is unknown how long the COVID-19 (the Corona Virus epidemic) will persist, with many believing that there will be periodic outbreaks until a vaccine is available and widely distributed.

Some scientists remain sceptical that a vaccine will be discovered in the near future. Whilst others point out that no vaccine for the common cold has ever been found and that this may be the case with COVID-19.

Here in the United Kingdom those in relationships where advised (when the Lockdown was introduced) to choose one place of abode and move in together rather than moving between different houses/flats. However social distancing rules mean that those not currently in a relationship should not be entering into one.

Whilst individuals (both single and those in relationships) have differing sex drives, and some have very little desire for sex, sex is (for most people) an inate (and frequently) strong drive. Denying those who happened to be single at the time of lockdown the right to find intimacy with a willing partner strikes me as cruel, as it denies a section of humanity the right to indulge their desire for sex with a willing adult with the same desire.

There are, of course risks with contact of any kind during the COVID-19 situation. However these need, in my view to be balanced against the psychological damage which may, I believe be caused if those single people (who wish to) are not given an outlet for their healthy desire to express themselves sexually.

It simply is not reasonable to say to people wait until a vaccine (which may never be found), is in place before you find a long (or short-term) sexual partner.

9 thoughts on “The Netherlands Advises Single People to Find Corona Sex Buddies

  1. blindzanygirl

    HERE HERE. So glad you said this kevin. My heart has been bleeding for those who want to be in a relationship, or enter int9 sexual intimacy. This is just the kind of time when the comfort of sexual intimacy is needed. More than ever. Even just human touch or hugging or kissing is stopped. Those most natural og human behaviours. My sister is looking for a relationship after the death of my mother. All that she has to hug is my mum’s ashes in a plastic bottle. She can meet no men. She is seeking someone hopefully to settle down with, and, being not young, needs to find someone soon. She is suffering emotionally and psychologixcally over this. I can see the problems with close contact with someone you don’t know, but if this is to go on and on the world will stop going round. It is human relationship that makes the world go round. Good on you for highlighting this Kevin. Best, Lorraine

    1. K Morris Poet Post author

      Thank you for your lovely and excellent comments Lorraine. I hope your sister finds the love and intimacy she so richly deserves. As you say, eventually, the world will stop if there is no sex. I’m sure that despite the rules some single people are still finding love (or simpoly sex). As with the Netherlands liberal attitude towards sex work, I think they are right on this one also. Best wishes, Kevin

      1. blindzanygirl

        I hope that my sister does too Kevin as she cared for my mum until mum’s recent death. Her life went on hold until then, and now, she cannot meet men. She is 60. I truly do believe that intimacy is the best medicine of all. X

      2. blindzanygirl

        Thankyou. She is walking down here this afternoon but will have to stay away from us and I can’t even give her a hug. It is sad.

      3. K Morris Poet Post author

        I’m glad you can see her at any rate Lorraine. I hope that with propper testing that it will be possible for families (and others) to hug again. If both people are shown by a test not to have COVID then I can’t see why they should not hug, kiss ETC.

        Take care, Kevin

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